Soul Contracts come in all shapes and sizes. Some are linked to those you work with, some with those you live with, and others with those you grew up with. But one obstacle gets in the way of all of them.
Yes! Good ol’ Judgement simply loves to tamper with your Soul Contracts, even the one you have with yourself. (Although that’s a topic for another day.)
Sometimes its very presence is the indicator that there is something deeper going on. That there is a purpose beyond the surface level and that the person you’re judging holds the key to unlocking an aspect of yourself that you haven’t yet recognised. Or resolving a habit that no longer serves you. If – and only if - you’re willing to look at that person in a different way.
I know, I know. Probably feels like the last thing you want to do right now but bear with me!
And sometimes Judgement just gets up and stands completely in the way of you ever recognising that there is something more to learn from the situation facing you, that there is a Soul Contract at play.
Because Judgement is a sneaky character. It makes you believe that it is the route to freedom. It entices you by telling you how stupid, or irritating, or immature the other person is, then whispers in your ear that maybe you should walk away from them, or point the finger at them, or blame them for everything that’s going wrong. And that everything will then be fine.
But life doesn’t work that way. And neither does Judgement. Things often get worse not better. And all because Judgement loves to play a big game of hide and seek, desperately trying to keep the other side of its coin hidden from view.
Because that’s where its antidote lies, and Judgement knows that you’ll use it if you can get your hands on it.
So, of course I’m going to let you get your hands on it! Why let Judgement have the final say?
Understanding is the antidote to Judgement.
The more you’re willing to understand another, the less power Judgement retains. Next time you find yourself judging someone, ask yourself the following questions instead:
What is it that I don’t understand about this person? What can I gain from understanding it?
What is this person mirroring for me? What is my Soul trying to learn?
It’s a different perspective, right? When we’re willing to be curious about an irritating situation – whether that’s at home or at work – Judgement loses its grip. When we allow ourselves to wonder what it is that we’re trying to understand, the entire issue opens.
And instead of feeling trapped or stressed or ready to walk out, we are given an opportunity to learn, to grow and to move forward. We’re given a choice. Maybe that choice will be to deepen a relationship, or clarify who you are, or learn something entirely new, or just to see that you always have a choice. Even when the road ahead seems blocked.
So here’s my challenge to you. Think about the person who is irritating you the most right now, and instead of being irritated by them, get curious. Ask yourself if this person has come to show me something, what could it be? (Spoiler Alert: may be linked to the way they make you feel eg unheard, unloved, unwanted, invisible?)
And once you recognise what it is, ask yourself what you want to do about it then take that action!
Want help with turning your Judgement into Understanding? Try this!